02. Introduction to Energy

A simple explanation of the concept: everything is energy.

A warm welcome to EM where today it is my pleasure to begin to introduce you to the world of energy and consciousness. This exciting world first crossed my path almost thirty years ago at a time when I was very lost and desperately seeking help. It didn’t happen all at once. Oh no! I wrestled with some of the strange new concepts far longer than was necessary; but with every new discovery I made, another tiny part of my very closed mind opened up, and slowly my life began to turn around. Embracing the world of energy and consciousness has brought a new level of joy into my life and has empowered me in a way I never dreamed was possible.

Before we can even think of beginning this journey together there is one concept that you need to grasp, understand and/or simply accept. Everything I shall be talking about is based on this predication and unless you can on-board yourself with this concept, nothing else will make sense to you. It is nothing new, it’s nothing weird, it is in fact one of the most famous equations of all time and originated from the great Albert Einstein:  E=mc²

“What’s that got to do with anything”? I know right! This gloriously astounding equation was taught to me in school in a linear and uninteresting way. I was encouraged to regurgitate it on demand without any understanding at all. If I had known then what I know now, I would have cancelled the rest of school and would have studied this concept and its ramifications for the whole of my school career and beyond.

E=mc² – Energy equals mass times the speed of light squared” Albert Einstein

Pared down to its simplest form E = mc2 says that energy and mass (matter) are interchangeable; they are different forms of the same thing. Under the right conditions, energy can become mass, and vice versa. While we as humans do not see that a beam of light and a nut are different forms of the same thing, Nature does.

There are vast tracts of information available at the push of a Google search button for those of you who want to deep dive into the scientific explanations and I encourage you to do so. I do not operate in that space. I need to understand things at their simplest level as then I can begin to apply that understanding to my life in a useful and meaningful way without getting caught up in the detail. Whilst I do agree that oodles of research and scientific proof is necessary in this world to stop us all spinning off half-cocked into chaos, I am a big fan of concepts, highlights, bullet points and summaries. One does not need to have an academic mind to understand the implications of anything. I personally find the minutiae and detail muddles my thinking. There is great beauty to be found in the distilled essence of matters.

“Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another” Albert Einstein

All matter has an electrical charge vibrating at varying frequencies. The higher the frequency the more we struggle to discern it. A dog training whistle as an example, carries a frequency far higher than the human ear can hear. A dog’s ear though is capable of hearing that higher frequency and will respond to it.  The lower the frequency, the denser the vibration, the more solid the matter. The frequency of water molecules in any of the three possible phases (solid, gas, liquid) fall in the infrared region of the electromagnetic spectrum. They can be measured using infrared spectroscopy. Feel free to explore this further if you wish, but for my purposes I’d like to give you two very practical examples to demonstrate this in the simplest possible way. 

A tree stands in a forest. Now imagine a woodcutter comes along and chops down the tree. The tree is no longer a tree, but a pile of logs. No longer growing, it vibrates at a different frequency. Now picture the woodcutter as he takes an armful of these logs and throws them into his fireplace. He applies a lit match (that itself used to be a tree) and the resultant fire turns the log into burning embers that emit heat and smoke and ultimately result in a pile of ash (again, all different frequencies). While he warms himself in front of the fire, he carves one of the larger logs into a chair. The tree did not vanish, it changed form through the application of heat/pressure and showed up in a different way at a different frequency.

Tree + Axe = Logs; Logs + Fire = Heat, Smoke, Ash; Log + Knife + Action = Chair

Another really clear explanation of this phenomenon is water. If water is put into ice trays, placed in the freezer, and submitted to cold temperatures it transforms into ice. If that same ice cube is added to a warm drink, the heat begins to return it to its previous form, water. If water is poured into a kettle and heat is applied via electricity or fire, the water begins to move rapidly as the frequency increases and steam is emitted. Leave it boiling long enough and the water “disappears”. What has actually happened is the water is now vibrating at a much higher frequency as vapor, and we can no longer discern it.

Water + Cold = Ice; Ice + Warmth = Water; Water + Heat = Steam/Vapor

If you are comfortable with that and can onboard the fact that everything is energy and everything vibrates at different frequencies that can be changed under certain conditions, and not everything that exists can be perceived, then I’d like to tell you just how that is relevant to this journey of ours. In order to do that, I need to take you back a little into my history.

I was born with all the potential innate in every soul. A little acorn destined to become a great tree. My parents were in their mid-forties when I arrived early in 1963.  My mother suffered from a terrible, mental health condition that started when I was born and remained undiagnosed until her 80th year. As she made the connection between my arrival and her diminishing sanity, she told me time and time again how she wished I had never been born. I was shamed for my very existence and burdened with guilt for destroying my mother’s life. I was schooled in the social graces of ‘be seen and not heard’ and ‘speak only when spoken to’. My father was so busy trying to keep her safe and stable, with no understanding or reason for her instability, that it took up most of his time and energy and he failed to make me feel safe. We must have been loved, but I certainly never felt nurtured or wanted.

In my world, things just were what they were and I wasn’t allowed to question anything beyond the requirement of my next action or task and the expected deliverable. Nowhere in my upbringing was I taught that I was an individual and that I had the right to dream, or to be different, or to develop myself in a manner of my choosing. I was never taught that I could choose. I was told what was expected of me and I was schooled hard to ensure I delivered just that, no more, no less… no joy. I was the epitome of the widget maker’s daughter, just another cog in a machine set to repeat itself in perpetuity.  Except that I wasn’t!

Inside of me beat a strong, powerful heart that yearned for self-expression and freedom. I wanted to explore and to discover and to make my mark in a world that seemed not to care that I was even in it. I honestly found life confounding and confusing, and insular to the point of frustration and pain. I grew up with the energy of limitation and control and I was taught that there was no place in the world for ‘people like me’ who wanted to challenge the status quo…who thought they were ‘above their station’, who dared to be different. I was a trouble maker, an undesirable, and I was squashed into a small little box where I was allowed to exist, just as long as I didn’t give a voice to the seething mass of resentment and fury building steadily inside of me.

That little acorn subjected to so much pressure in the form of constant repression, limitation, punishment and demands for obedience and silence (less than ideal conditions), created a child who becomes frozen; a sullen, angry, frustrated, withered version of herself – operating at a frequency far below her potential. By the time I heard about E = mc2  during a science lesson in school I had given up all hope of ever being anything other than what I was told I needed to be in order to be acceptable. I was destined to never become the ‘ tree’ I was born to be.

Was that abuse? Bad parenting? I’ve come to understand that it was not. My parents taught me what they believed I needed to learn to exist peacefully in the world that I was born into. They believed one should never draw undue attention to self and as far as possible should remain invisible and therefore untroubled by the law or those in charge. This would ensure we stayed safe, incurred no wrath nor penalty, and they lived a life underpinned by honest labour with sufficient reward to keep them fed and housed. What more could one possibly ask for!

My energy and frequency were changed from the enormous potential I was born with, by continued application of stress/pressure/cold and just like that chopped down tree, I stopped growing and became the equivalent of an inert pile of logs that was useful and serviceable, but had no purpose in her own right. However, I firmly believe that..

“Nothing is a problem until it becomes a problem for you and then change is inevitable”.

Which bring us to EM where everyone’s energy matters and matters of energy are discussed. I’ve heard it said that it doesn’t so much matter what happens to you, as what you do with it. It’s taken me a very long time to work that one out, but in the end I am grateful for the difficult upbringing I experienced, because without those challenges I may not have learned all the things I know today. I might have lived a bland and beige life without color or joy; I would have simply existed.

My story is by no means unique and even under the best of circumstances we can find our frequencies altered.  We are affected as children by the constraints of our upbringing, our societal connections, our community ties, our religious beliefs, our learning institutions, our political affiliations, by everything that happens to us, and around us. We all suffer from distortions of our original potential even though in some cases we are blissfully unaware of this. But at some point you may experience that niggling feeling that there has to be more to life than this; that you have somehow ended up living the wrong life; that your life no longer fits you; that you are strangely uncomfortable in your own skin; that you are living life emotionally charged. Well, when that becomes a big enough problem for you that change becomes inevitable there are many resources available to help you. Plus, you are in the perfect place to join me on this journey where you will learn how to help yourself. We will explore the exciting world of energy and spirituality, the quantum space, and I shall share with you in simple, uncomplicated terms some of what I know.

I’m always interested to hear your opinions and I encourage feedback. However, it is essential to understand this vital truth as we journey together:

“We don’t have to agree on a single thing to be kind to one another”.

So, disagree with me by all means, own your different perspective, but know that I do not tolerate bullying, shaming or disrespect on any level and that is a hard and fast boundary for me.

My objective is to listen with EMpathy
and help EMbolden you to dream.
As you EMerge from your learned way of being,
I will celebrate with you as you EMbrace your full potential.
As you EMancipate yourself from your limitations,
you EMpower yourself to live with greater clarity and joy!

Until next time when I shall discuss Meditation as a Gateway to Consciousness, be kind to one another and honor yourself as the unique and incredibly special soul that you are.

© Copyright 2020 – Janice Melmed

01. Introducing EM – Energy Matters

 Hello and a very warm welcome to EM

There’s no time like a global crisis for starting something new, so let’s dive right in and perhaps we will find out why you have stumbled across my page, and what it is that I have to share that you might find interesting, hopefully enjoy, could possibly want, or maybe even need.  

This has been an interesting year indeed and it looks set to continue that way for the foreseeable future. Yet somehow in the midst of all this uncertainty and chaos, the time feels right for me to be launching myself out into the world. I have just secured a publishing contract for my autobiography with the dubious title Weird Shit! Sitting processing that momentous event and thinking back to where my life began, it is a miracle of monumental proportions that such a thing could ever happen.  

I come from very humble beginnings and for the most part lived an incredibly sheltered and blinkered life with limited scope and experience. I bumbled along minding my own business and generally making a large hash of things and it wasn’t until my thirties that I realised I actually had command of my own existence and could in fact direct my life in the manner of my choosing. This was such a departure from how I was raised that I had no idea how to onboard that concept. My limited thinking had no receptors for concepts such as choice and freedom. I was gainfully employed, divorced, a mother to two young children, and suffering from mystery illnesses that I could find no answers for in the field of medicine. One day I happened across a woman who invited me to join her meditation group. I didn’t even know such a thing existed. In the beginning I was suspicious, nervous, and at times downright afraid of the people I met because I had no frame of reference for the language they used, the concepts they espoused, or the joy and freedom that appeared to come so easily to them. It was only once I settled in and embraced what I secretly thought of as the Weird Shit! that I realised just how off course my life actually was.   

Having dared to extricate myself from an unhappy marriage I found myself in a state of confusion and panic. I had this urgent feeling that there had to be more to life than what I had been dealt. Divorce, for me, was the equivalent of The Great Escape, it wasn’t something I had undertaken lightly; it was born out of a desperation to feel valid in my own life. And yet there I was liberated and alone, feeling judged by everyone I knew, covered in shame for having broken vows; consumed with guilt for having hurt someone else, for having rocked my children’s lives off their axis’, and feeling like I had run out of options. That great escape seemed to have led me into a large crocodile infested swamp and I was in trouble. I lived with such enormous fear and self-doubt on the inside whilst projecting a tough girl façade to the world. Then I discovered a whole new realm of possibilities and realities within the quantum space, the world of energy and spirituality, and I have never looked back. Through everything I learned along the way I came to realise that nothing in my life up to that point was of my own design or construct, perhaps with the exception of the great escape. I was held hostage by enormous triggers that evoked inappropriate and often times overly emotional reactions from me. I was lurching from one crisis to the next getting more and more miserable and physically ill. Something had to change.  

“Nothing in life is really a problem, until it becomes a real problem for you, and then changes becomes inevitable”.

And so I joined that meditation group and I sat there in a state of suspended animation with my less than one micro gram of self-worth, pretending to the outside world that I had my shit together, and I did as the leader suggested. My mother always told me that curiosity killed the cat. Well! the day I crossed that woman’s threshold and joined that mediation group, I took my first quantum leap into a world that has both fascinated and delighted me and has taken me on a voyage of discovery that I never dreamed was possible. I invite you to take that journey with me over the next while as I introduce to you, in the simplest of terms, some of the exciting things I discovered along the way that have changed my life for the better.  

My intention is to share what I have learned, so that others who may be struggling in life, might find something to help them. The more we know, the easier it is to make decisions about our lives. Knowledge is indeed power and in these times of chaos and uncertainty, the time for each of us to empower ourselves is surely right now. We could all stand to experience more joy in our lives. If what you are currently doing isn’t providing that, then perhaps it’s time for some life-scrutiny, some self-reflection, and the onboarding of some new information.   Do you relate to any of the following?  

  • Who am I and what is my purpose?
  • I feel lost in my own life
  • After the upheaval of the Covid-19 pandemic I no longer have the desire to fit back into life as I knew it
  • I often feel overly emotional
  • I am subject to bouts of anger for no reason
  • I feel resentful of my loved ones
  • I’ve lost my passion
  • I feel afraid of the future
  • I am always ill and never seem to get fully better
  • I hurt myself for no reason
  • I am at odds with my family
  • I often feel confused
  • I feel like I don’t fit it
  • I don’t feel loved
  • I’m afraid of being judged
  • I wish someone else could just make it all better.

 At times I have identified with all of them. These are some pretty powerful indicators that something in your life could do with a revisit. Don’t panic though as this is the beauty of life where the only constant is change and nothing stays the same forever. That sentence in itself might trigger enormous fear and anxiety in you, or maybe excitement, or perhaps curiosity. Well I am about to launch myself into an online venture in the social media space where I have little experience and whilst I am excited on the outside, I admit to feeling more than a little anxious on the inside. However, I have learned that little of any worth happens in my comfort zone so here goes nothing!!

I shall be sharing what I learned along the way that helped me get my life back on track; the subjects are many and varied and all (in my humble opinion) exciting. Some are controversial and I shall offer you my understanding of them. I encourage you at all times to question and decide for yourself what you want to accept and onboard. I’m always interested to hear your opinions and I encourage feedback. However, it is essential to understand this vital truth as we journey together:  

We don’t have to agree on a single thing to be kind to one another.

So, disagree with me by all means, own your different perspective, but know that I do not tolerate bullying, shaming or disrespect on any level and that is a hard and fast boundary for me. We will of course discuss boundary setting in a future conversation.  

If you want to connect with me virtually for a private session of energy work (I take a very limited number of bookings), drop me an email at melmedjanice@gmail.com.  Before I sign off for today let me share with you my intention and you’ll see why I chose EM – Energy Matters for my work identity. I have always had a particular fondness for words beginning with EM, I love the feel of the energy behind each word.

My  intention is to listen with EMpathy
and help EMbolden you to dream.
As you EMerge from your learned way of being,
I will celebrate with you as you EMbrace your full potential.
As you EMancipate yourself from your limitations,
you EMpower yourself to live with greater clarity and joy!

Until next time when I shall introduce you to the concept of Energy and where it all began for me, be kind to one another and honour yourself as the unique and incredibly special soul that you are.

© Copyright 2020 – Janice Melmed

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